The VDOE has become SO non-compliant for special education students over so many years, there is simply NO excuse for it. None. One trick my school division does is to minimize IEP input and purposely make me feel like I don't have a voice at all, cutting me off, talking over me, saying 'we disagree' and I don't understand why there is any reason that IEP meetings should be such hostile and inflammatory experiences. The LEA already 'claims' it puts 'parent input' in the IEPs but only what they want to include, so they can deny everything they want on their own whims and not even answer to anything. 

My son is 6, has autism and is incontinent but comes home day after day in soiled diapers, rotten, old soiled diapers but school staff doesn't 'recognize this' because 'we don't see it at at school'...Both Parent input AND Dr. input MUST be not only included, but not minimized to the point that concerns get blown off. The ONLY things they want to provide is anything that costs zero. Doctor Letters, Health Plans, Safety Plans and CLEAR and CORRECT Parent Input MUST be included in and WITH every IEP. I've heard, 'we can include it, but not WITH it...so if any OTHER school requests documents, the extra supports needed are not communicated with other schools. Thanks for addressing this. It must be clear and done correctly for the well-being of the children.