I voluntarily decided to care for my friend's daughter with disabilities when her family's circumstances changed.  I already have a large family, what is one more?  Well, it has been a challenge, but through many trials, we have made it work for a decade.  Now, comes EVV.  It has literally turned mine and my family's life upside down.  I thought the most trouble I had would come from handling a disability!  Now, I am considering letting this person go to an institution! To think I must even consider this decision is horrendous and heart wrenching! This will be on the hands of the state, since live-ins are not federally mandated!  How is Virginia being person centered when IGNORING the federal exemption and the PERSON all at the same time??!