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10/11/11  6:23 pm
Commenter: Sheila E Trimble

Equality for Child Placement

I am a woman married to my husband for fourteen years (seven married).  We have two beautiful children who are are our pride and joy.  I have a lifetime friend who has been with her partner for almost the same period of time and they had to leave Virginia to build their beautiful family of two boys.  Virginia was better off having them as tax paying citizens in the state than having them leave to adopt their children, so it was Virginia's loss.  I can only imagine how many others were like my friend.  You could have used that money for children in the system.

My friend and her partner are legally married now.  They are just as loving and competent as my husband and myself. Her sons are no more at risk for becoming gay than she was at becoming gay (she was raised by heterosexual parents), so anyone who believes that is ignorant.  In other words, my children are at the same "risk" of being gay as her children.  It has nothing to do with who is raising the children.

There are parents who have no business being parents.  Perhaps you need a screening process that involves something more than the sexuality the parent identifies with.  The priority should be having an environment that is loving and secure for any child that you place.  Focusing on the sexuality of the foster/adoptive parent is losing sight of what is important here.  There are a lot of children who are in need of happy, secure, loving homes.  Children feel love and rejection.  Children in foster feel abandoned and unloved.  As long as you find foster/adoptive homes with adults who are well-adjusted, you'll have children who become healthy little people. 

Thank you for your time. 

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