No stance, whether pro-life, "family" first, faith-based, or parental rights-based can prove, beyond any shade of doubt, that placing a child (a child) in a dangerous and discredited practice like conversion therapy will have the intended effect. In fact, all of those stances are based on the idea that being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer (LGBTQ) is a mental illness that needs to be cured—a view with no scientific basis. This same idea is the basis for conversion therapy.

My heart breaks for the parents, religious leaders, and friends who believe the masquerade of state-licensed therapists in Virginia who falsely claim to parents and youth that being LGBTQ is a mental illness, and therefore taking advantage of parents and harming vulnerable youth. These harmful practices use rejection, shame, and psychological abuse to force young people to try and change who they are. These practices are known to be extremely dangerous and can lead to depression, decreased self-esteem, substance abuse, and even suicide attempts.

 The good news is that with this Guidance Document in place, parents and youth can access real, positive therapeutic resources that will guide them through a sometimes tumultuous period of their lives. Helpful, state-licensed, and reputable mental health professionals can and will come to the forefront and we will ultimately grow happier adults from our children.

We owe it to the children - yes, children - of Virginia to support and pass this guidance. Every organization, even those opposing these Guidance Document, exists to support and affirm family unity and give children a fighting chance. Help us stand by our word as parents, friends, and as a community by passing this Guidance Document. 

Jessica McKeon
Chair, Welcoming Congregation Committee
Unitarian Universalist Church of Roanoke, VA