As a former Probation & Parole Counselor, I have seen many people struggling with their identities. However, all situations cannot be addressed with individuals unless both sides are presented to them. I have seen clients who have been influenced by their peers to be & do certain things that they did not want to feel or do because of friends, gangs & street pressures. Therefore please let counselors be counselors & do not restrict them from getting their clients out of life changing decisions which in all actuality they physically or mentally are not suited for or a lifestyle that they may not truly want. Let them make that decision. Only they can do it with your help, if it is the right course of action for them. One of my clients once said to me, "you do not understand, I do not know how to get out of this situation".  Please help everyone the way you should. Your counseling should only help not hurt the ones you profess to care about.