Parental rights are important, and should be respected. However, I can’t force my children to become smaller versions of myself. I want them to think for themselves, and form opinions and beliefs that are clear, evidence based, and coalesce with their morality.
I did not vote for Gov Youngkin, but I don’t bad mouth him in front of my kids. I disagree with this policy change for a solid reason, and that I do share with my kids. Ultimately, it’s my opinion, and my kids have the freedom and right to form their own.
My opinion would be that kids have rights over their identities. If my kid likes football and hates history, I cannot as a parent demand the school kick my kid off the football team and load up his studies on Ancient Roman provinces. I can encourage them to take an interest, and expose them to things I hope will spark some curiosity, but I can’t demand it. If I can’t force what my kids must enjoy, I certainly cannot command who they are.
Your gender is a fundamental, foundational element of your identity. It dictates how you view yourself and how the world views you. Trans people believe there was an error in their gender at birth. Convincing them otherwise would be like asking me to just be a woman. I can’t, I wouldn’t even know where to begin. I like my beard, I like my Adam’s apple, and all the other physical markers that tell me I’m a man. I also am a father, and wouldn’t imagine a world where that part of who i am just wasn’t there. That’s me, those are my feelings, and they don’t apply to everyone.
Not misgendering people isn’t a form of fascism, it’s simply polite. It’s similar to why we don’t walk up to large women and ask when their due to have their baby. It’s rude and disrespectful. Why should any government policy condone disrespect, no matter if the parent supports it or not? Would you call my kid a fatty too, if I wanted them to conform to a specific weight? Would you call my kid a Yankee Lover if I didn’t approve of their boy/girlfriend’s place of birth? I would hope not. So why should any school have to seek my consent before calling my kid by the name/pronoun they desire? How is that my business? If my kid were transgender, I’d probably be the first to know. And if I don’t, my kid may have a good reason to keep me ignorant. Let’s not put schools in charge of outing kids and enforcing disrespect. Let’s have schools be the community centers they are suppose to be, and let parents raise our children, with the understanding that our kids will be a part of us no matter what they eventually believe.