As a high schooler, a trans person, and a friend of some Virginia public school students, I strongly oppose this policy. Preventing students from identifying how they wish - not by making permanent changes, but by simply being referred to with their correct pronouns - does nothing to benefit the students it claims to protect. Instead, it causes more problems, making trans and non binary students repress their identities at school or run the risk of being outed to possibly unsupportive parents. To say that allowing students to be referred to with their preferred pronouns is “pushing ideology” is wrong. Students should not be prevented from expressing themselves in a non-disruptive way, and asking teachers to use the correct pronouns does nothing to harm anyone. For the parents who say that this means students will make “big changes” that will affect their entire lives, this is completely false. A simple request of being referred to differently is not a permanent change and can just as easily. It’s about as big a change as asking to be called a nickname rather than your full name. Allowing students to be referred to properly without notifying parents does no harm; the greatest damage it can cause is minor confusion. Preventing students from being themselves, by denying them the ability to express their own identities, only isolates trans students and causes the feelings of uneasiness that you claim to protect them from.
I put a lot of time into writing this, so I hope I got through to at least someone. Even if I can’t change anyone’s mind, I want people to hear perspectives from a trans student.