I'm the parent of two (2) children currently enrolled in Virginia public schools. I fully support this rational policy. I read the entire policy and have zero recommended changes - it is great how it is written.
This is an incredibly fair policy that moves Virginia back to a more reasonable perspective, enabling a collaboration between schools and parents (II. Guiding Principals, paragraph B). Parents should be the ones who are involved in all aspects of their children, including preferred names and preferred gender identification, and this policy rightfully establishes that parental involvement and appropriate role of schools in our children's lives. The proposed policy also addresses bullying in a good way, providing balance to the overall approach. I particularly like that this policy requires parents to provide in writing any name or gender change, and requires parental notification for all counseling - these are both things parents should be involved with. The only thing i didn't see are consequences for districts, schools, and school personnel that violate the proposed policy.
To counter those who oppose this policy, if a child is in danger at home for any reason, the school still has appropriate paths to report that danger. This policy does not remove those mechanisms for protecting children at home. If a parent is abusive, that parent should be reported and investigated regardless of the reason for the abuse, and this policy aligns with that. And this policy won't result in kids committing suicide - that's a ridiculous argument that is not founded in solid science (the math on this needs to be addressed in this policy). The hyperbole around kids being in danger at home is overblown, and the underlying mental challenges of these kids has not been addressed enough. Adults have to go to court to change their names - why should it be different for kids? And most importantly, no adult should keep secrets with children that are not theirs (e.g. no school teacher or staff should have a secret with someone's kid, ever, even if it means 'outing' a kid) - this policy makes sure that those secrets do not happen. Children should not be encouraged to keep secrets from their parents, ever.
Thank you Virginia and Governor Youngkin!!