We have the opportunity in this state to be one that is here to support and protect all children, including those that are trans and nonbinary. Sexuality and gender are not a choice. If it were, people would not choose to suffer the bigotry, discrimination, and violence that is brought upon them by those full of hate and misunderstanding. Yes, babies are usually born 1 of 2 sexes, but there are also babies that are born intersex, or have a variation of X and Y chromosomes. Even sex/science is not just black and white.
We also know that many children know at a young age that they are different, as in not cis-heterosexual. However, those children may not know or have the language to express what is different. They also face a lot of pressure to conform, from their parents to their classmates. We know that many children suffer severe depression and anxiety for years or decades because they may not understand what is different about them, or because they fear coming out. Many parents and families are close minded and will shun and shame their children because they are not cis-hetero.
"Religious freedom" does not mean that you can discriminate against other people and force your beliefs on them. The government and public schools should respect everyone, and not base policies on any religious belief. Parents also do not always know what is best. There is a lot of trauma, hate, and shame that comes from parents. How many adults now have to work through their own pain and childhood trauma because their parents did not know any better? How many adults struggle with loving themselves and others because they did not have love at home? Let's be honest, not everyone is meant to be a parent. Not everyone knows how to raise children.
But as a government for ALL Virginians, we can work to ensure we protect our children. We support them in their journeys of self-discovery, and we accept our children as they are. We allow them to express themselves. That is how we empower our youth.
It only takes a few moments to listen to trans stories and to hear how much joy and happiness they feel when they finally accept who they are and express themselves in a way that aligns with their gender or sexuality.
Learning about sex and gender is not "sexualizing" our children. It is educating them. Sexualizing children was when girls were sent home to change out of short shorts or spaghetti straps because it was inappropriate. Inappropriate for who? The boys who still think girls have cooties? Or the adults? Or believing that boys can't control themselves, so we punish the girls and their outfits?
It is not hard to show kindness, especially to children. Let them play on sports. Let them use bathrooms. Use their preferred pronouns. Respect the children. They have rights to be who they want to be. If Republicans are so keen on protecting life, then let's protect those lives. Let's protect them from discrimination and hate and violence. Let's protect them from depression and anxiety. Let's protect them from suicide.
Let's act out of LOVE. Out of ACCEPTANCE.
We can do better. Let's start here in Virginia and show the rest of the country that we can do better.