The 2022 Model Policies as written make dangerous assumptions about the stability and safety of individual homes across the Commonwealth of Virginia, and deny educators the ability to leverage their own expertise about how to support children in the best, safest way.
We as parents must acknowledge that, while rare, gender dysphoria is real among people all over the world, and that, without the proper levels of support, young people susceptible to anxiety, depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, and suicide. Denying these young peoples' challenges does not eliminate them, it only makes feelings of shame and isolation more dangerous.
I am sympathetic to parents who feel that this policy rights the wrongs of the 2021 Model Policies, and feel that those directives placed teachers and administrators as a wedge between parents and their children. In stable, loving households with parents ready to work with love and care as their kids try to solidify their sense of identity and self, engaging families and requiring their support makes sense.
However, no matter the school district, I am certain that virtually every commenter can remember, whether in their own life or in one of their classmates, a family that was defined by instability, neglect, violence, substance abuse and/or bigotry. These policies reject the reality that there are some students who have to essentially raise themselves, who have to live functionally independent lives even as teens. These are young people who cannot reasonably expect their parents can support them as they try to understand their own gender identity, even if they would support them.
And I believe that this is where the Model Policies fail. Teachers, staffers, and administrators are experienced experts who have seen all sorts of children from all sorts of places who need all sorts of things. While my parents were and remain positive forces for good in my life, I remember teachers who affirmed my passions, challenged my philosophies, and had conversations with me that my parents simply weren't equipped to have. Simply put, these teachers have more experience than us as parents, and we as a society should trust their judgment when it comes to affirming our children and determining whether parents are in the proper position to be a part of that team in this aspect of children's lives.
We demand our school systems provide the physical, emotional and intellectual support necessary to ensure our children thrive in this world. We make those demands not only because it is more convenient, so that we can tend to our offices or farms while someone else handles education, but because in some or many instances these teachers and administrators have the training, experience and resources to do better for our children than we can.
Recommending that teachers engage parents when a child is redefining their gender is a sensible practice. Requiring them to do so is simply too dangerous. I oppose these policies, and hope that the Governor's Office and the Department of Education will amend them moving forward.